Deborah Tannen

Status vs Support
Men seek to achieve upper hand and to have dominance, so they see the world as a place where people gain status and keep it. Whereas women talk to gain confirmation and support, so they see the world as a "network of connections seeking support and consensus"

Independance vs Intimacy 
Men are independent in order to maintain their status so would not check things with their wives first. Compared to women who like to feel intimate and cared for meaning they would always check things with their husbands

Advice vs Understanding 
Women want symapthy whereas men only think about the solutions to the problems

Information vs Feelings
Men only want to know information e.g. when and where to meet, on the other hand women want to have a general chat as well as finding out the information

Orders vs Proposals
Women are more indirect to suggest things by using interrogatives, compared to men who use direct imperatives as orders

Conflict vs Compromise 
Women will try and avoid conflict by accepting a compromise and then moan after, whereas men will voice disagreement straight away and are not afraid of conflict